Monday, July 28, 2014

Different Types of Collars and Their Meanings



What is collaring?
Collaring is the moment that shows that a sub has completed their training and their relationship with their Dom has been taken to a new level. If you can think of consideration and training collars as engagement rings, the ownership collar is similar to a wedding ring. Sometimes ceremonies are held by the Dom to celebrate this moment.

For more information on collaring ceremonies and examples of how to plan one, please click here.

Just as Doms earn a sub's submission through love and trust, a sub earns their collars through their hard work and devotion.

Types of collars:
  • Posture collars
  • Dog collars
  • Leather collars
  • Ribbon collars
  • Metal collars
  • Discreet/day collars
  • Bracelet or anklet collars
  • Rings
  • Branding, scarification, and tattoos

Collars and their meanings:
Different collars have different meanings. When you hear "collaring", you tend to think of the ownership (mentioned below) but there are other ties when collars may be worn:

Posture Collar - You've probably seen these collars in pictures, they tend to be fairly large and cover up most of the neck. They are worn to for fun, as a fashion statement, or a way to restrict neck movement and enhance posture.
Play collar - These collars are very commonly worn during scenes and tend to have no significant meaning behind them. Play collars are typically dog collars, leather collars, or ribbon collars.

Protection collar - This is when a Dom wants to show that a submissive is protected and is commonly used in dungeons or kinky house parties. This lets other Doms know that while this sub is not owned, they are not are free to touch or approach. These collars are typically dog collars or leather collars.
Consideration collar- This is one of the first steps in showing advancement in a D/s dynamic. It signifies that the submissive is being considered for a long term relationship or ownership, however, it is normally worn for an agreed on amount of time and can be revoked for any reason. These collars tend to be leather collars*.
Training collar - This type of collar shows that a submissive is currently being trained by a Dom. It gives a taste of the power that the Dom has over the sub. These collars tend to be leather collars*.

Ownership collar (also known as a formal collar or slave collar) - This is not to be taken lightly, it is the equivalent of giving/receiving a wedding ring and shows that the submissive is owned. An ownership collar is earned after a sub has completed their training or deemed worthy of being kept long term. This means it could be years before a sub receives an ownership collar. These collars can look like anything from a leather dog collar, to a metal collar (most commonly seen), to a symbolic piece of jewelry (a bracelet, anklet,  necklace, or ring). Some Doms even prefer to tattoo or brand their sub, this is more commonly done in the Master/slave dynamic and Gorean lifestyle. It’s completely up to the Dom and sub.

*If worn out public, these collars can be substituted with a day collar.









The meaning behind the collar should not be a game of guess work, especially ownership collars. If you have to ask yourself if the collar you're wearing signifies that you're owned, then it's probably not an ownership collar. When a Dom gives you a collar they will (or should) tell you the meaning behind it and discuss any questions you may have regarding it. As for the type of collar given, it's not the look of it that matters but the bond and meaning behind it.

Proper etiquette  and collars:
If you're a Dom and you see a sub with a collar, you should avoid trying to make advancements of any sort unless you've talked it out with their Dom. Some Doms even require that you speak to them before even approaching or conversing with their sub. Do not disrespect the relationship or the Dom's ownership.

If you're a sub and wearing a consideration, training, or ownership collar you should not take off your collar (assuming it's not locked or you have access to the key) without your Dom's permission. Taking it off during arguments is considered rude and disrespectful.
Where to buy collars?
Collars can be bought at local dungeons by vendors and crafters. You can also find those same people on Fetlife through meets, munches, and networking. However, you can buy collars online as well.
External links for more information on collaring:
Collars and Their Meanings
The Impact of Velcro Collars on the Symbolism by lunaKM
What It Means to be Collared by LadySneak
The Ring and the Collar by tequilarose

16 comments:

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    I find that a truly discreet day collar is really hard to find, and they have a really nice selection.

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  2. I'm seeking a ddlg collar to wear in public. It has to be in purple or blue. This little will not wear pink.

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  3. I'm a sub my Dom is also a 70 year old man I call daddy. When he needs me I come. It is a great feeling being owned by such a powerful man. It is such a turn on when I kneel before him.

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  11. But my question is who buys the training collar and what the difference between being training or owed?

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    1. Christy,

      A collar should be purchased by the Dom and presented to their submissive. The collar is a symbol of commitment for both the Dom and the submissive, in much the same way a promise ring or wedding ring is for a vanilla couple. For the Dom, it symbolizes his commitment to training and ultimately, to the well-being and growth of his submissive. For the sub, it symbolizes her commitment to her Dom. In most D/s relationships that honor protocol, a collar is presented as part of a ceremony.

      The difference between being trained and being owned is subject to interpretation. But generally speaking, receiving ones formal collar is the culmination of training and symbolizes that the relationship is moving from training to the next step.

      Sir

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  12. Now is there any meanings with the collars when it comes to color? As you search through the Web you see much different opinions. I saw in one place that a consideration collar should be blue in color..??.. can anyone give some in site...

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    1. i tend to use a stoplight as my basis. red is a no go, yellow is aproach slowly, and green is good to go. these are to be used with your own sub, so keep that in mind

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  13. These things are mostly true. Though it is my belief that it is impossible to fully complete training, as there will always be more possibilities to explore should you set your mind to it. Some things may purposely not be explored at all, depending on the levels of comfort or preestablished barriers in a given relationship. But there is always room for improvement, even when you think everything seems perfect.

    This doesn't mean, of course, that you can never be satisfied either as a slave or a dominant. Rather the opposite: The union will be kept fresh and the making of love exciting as endless possibilities are explored, and the fruits of your labors... well, come to fruition in spectacular new ways. You don't need a collar to complete your training, but to indicate "Damned good enough, you're mine and I'm not letting you go now if you'll commit to my loving, protective arms"... in perhaps not as many words.

    However, this does give me some food for thought, as I have been debating whether to get my little one the dog collar or something more extravagant and metallic. I think the dog collar will convey just as much meaning, since neither of us are particularly materialist. She is not much of a masochist and retains this sort of innocence and conscientious nature you never really find anymore, and she is a whole lot like a puppy, really. Between kisses and clingy cuddles, she's ridiculously sweet and adorable and is somehow always pleasantly surprised by sexual advances despite my doing them more often than daily. The dog collar suits her personality much better -- even if she regularly enjoys wearing cat ears, heh.

    --Doktor K.

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