Tuesday, July 8, 2014

You or Daddy/Mommy having a bad day? Here's how you can help

  • Bake cookies together and decorate them.
  • Put on their favorite movie and watch it with them.
  • Play a game together.
  • Cook their favorite food for dinner.
  • Go on a walk together and enjoy eachother’s presence and the beauty of nature.
  • Take a bubble bath together. Don’t forget your favorite rubber ducky or Lush bath bombs.
  • Write a little note. It can funny, cute, or lovey-dovey. It’s up to you.
  • Increase the amount of hugs and kisses that day.
  • Cuddles!
  • Help your little play dress up and take pictures of them in their outfits. Look over them together at the end and keep your favorites.
  • Look at funny things online together.
  • Make love. Remember to ask first and respect their disinterest at that time. Not everyone is in the mood to play while under stress.
  • Be supportive and empathetic.
  • Take your little out to an empty playground.
  • Meditate together and listen to calming music.
  • Offer advise.
  • Give your little a make over. You both can laugh at the results at the end.
  • Draw, color, or paint something together.
  • Give them space if needed.
For littles:
Remember that Daddies and Mommies are people too and that means they can have bad days at work or just feel relatively down. On these days you will need to to be a big girl or boy and be less demanding as a little. Think about how you’d want to be treated if you’re having a bad day. Always ask if there’s anything you can do to help, but feel free to offer ideas to distract them from their issue. Realize that not all Daddies and Mommies are the same, some  will want their little to give them extra attention that day while others prefer solitude to deal with whatever’s going on; understand that both of these are perfectly okay and normal.

For Daddies and Mommies:
Remember that your little is much more sensitive and requires more attention and love than other women or men. This goes without saying but spoil them a bit more with affection and attention; you need to heal both the inner child and the big. Do more things together, especially things that interest your little. You want to make them feel happier than their current state. If you and your little’s dynamic includes some sort of servitude or 1950’s lifestyle, give them a break that day. They can carry on with chores tomorrow. Reassure them that it’s okay to have bad days and that no matter what, you’re still going to love them and be there for them.
Remember that while you may not be able to solve the problem or completely cheer up your Daddy or little, it’s the effort and thought that counts; it shows you care.

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